Tuesday, March 17, 2009

My First Uncomfortable Question and More Updates on Grace

So, today I had my first uncomfortable question and it was from a student! I used to think that sometimes we as adoptive parents tended to be a little more oversensitive about things and I told myself that I would be a little more go with the flow sort of attitude...I was wrong. I bristled like a big old porcupine. I was showing the updated pictures to my student aide when another student asked me, "How much is she costing you?" Yep, the money question out of the mouth of a 6th grader. I wasn't expecting that at all. Middle schoolers aren't known for their tact. I have to say I did feel my bristles come out but I remembered an article I had read in O magazine about this same thing. Ironically enough I had re-read that article last night about things people should never say to adoptive families or children. This was one of the questions but I loved the way the author of the article handled it. She said that all children no matter if they are adopted or biological cost their parents money. So, remembering this I asked the young lady, "How much did you cost your mother?" and she said, "$5000" and I said, "Hmmm, something like that." I never answered the question but I really was floored. I guess the bottom line is that I need to toughen up and be prepared for the ignorant questions. I think I handled it okay. I just need to remind myself not to show my bristly spines.

On a brighter note, I got an update on my daughter. She looks great and is gaining weight. I have to give props to Angela and Kelly from LadybugsNLove who were so quick and fast with their help. They are the best. I will be sending a care package through them as soon as I get my LSC. Let's hope that comes very soon.